We all hurt at some point in our lives. We all experience pain, loss, and shame. We stumble, we fall, we lose. We go through things we are never ready to take on. From time to time, as we are bound to do, we give up. We let go of life, and we think we are broken. What we don’t always see is that there is a choice to make in every single stage of our life. The choice to give up or keep going. Fight or flight. Sometimes fight, flight, or freeze. Most times we flee or we freeze. When things change, however, and we’re no longer satisfied with taking the backseat we find the courage in ourselves to change in times when we have no choice but to build ourselves back up and rise from our ashes. Once you’ve fought your battles and yet, you find yourself in the exact same place you were before, hurting, you decide to change. That’s when you know you never ever want to feel the way you feel right now. That’s when you decide you will do anything not to feel like this again. When we decide to change not for the wrong reasons, but to save ourselves from ourselves, when we realize we have created this reality for ourselves throughout these years, and we have complete control over what our life is like, that’s when we can actually change in the long run. Before you start your journey to finding yourself back, consider that you will stumble a lot, and it will hurt possibly over and over again, and you will have to start building yourself back up again and again after each time. Think about changing your core belief system when it comes to existence and the meaning of life. Fall out of self – sabotaging and limiting beliefs and routines. Be aware of your thought-patterns and the way you actually choose your current life over the life you could have instead. This is not something that happens overnight. It’s not linear, and it’s not pretty or comfortable. However, once you do come out on the other side, you can see that the grass really is greener, because this time you were brave enough to water it. When you step out of your own way, you get to see how beautiful it can be to know who you are and what you’re actually capable of creating in your life. Consider this a book on hope and hurt and how these can coexist. I hope I can move you, make you think, spark an idea or a realization. I hope these words find the right people and hit the right spots. I want you to absorb every one of these pages. I want you to feel these pages and see them as what they are. A collection of some of the most important feelings in life. Emotions and circumstances and what they bring about. The hard truth about love, hurt, failure, injustice and rising after you fall. This is everything you need to know before starting your adolescent life.Â
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