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There are way too many things that are underrated in life: the comfort of your favorite song, the healing power of a simple hug and possibility of being someone in the world of no ones. We live in between white noise and blurred lines, expectations created from thin air and the pressure generated from our own fears. Looking around, all you see is humans like yourself trying to figure out their lives, hoping that one day they fill find a place to fit it, to belong and call home. Ever wonder why people are so eager to find a partner in life, settle down and have a life lead by routine?

There are many theories around why this is happening. Some will actively persuade that this is the natural way of living as this is all that the humanity has known for centuries. Others will say that although they are a wild animal, the so-called society expects this from them to ensure family continuity. A few will pretend that this is really outside their nature, and they prefer to run free, claiming that loneliness does not scare them. Well, loneliness and being alone is not the same. We may be with someone and yet feel so lonely and misunderstood at the same time and yet being alone and complete may fulfill our lives. Many will find their satisfaction of life in casual dating, alcohol or shopping, to name a few. Yet deep inside, there is this urge that lives inside us all: find the sense of belonging.

This is why we so desperately hope to find someone to share our lives with, someone who does not judge us and makes us feel home. We find home in that person and our own prejudice about routine, or settling down vanishes as we feed this urge. Although, we come into this life alone, and we leave it in peace alone, the journey of life tastes better when is shared. It is not even about happiness or romance. It’s about finding the other half to your orange that fits and creates safe space for you to be you.

So, while we look for our half of the orange we temporarily feed the urge of belonging with the illusions of comfort that sadly often go unnoticed. The world as we know is focused on power and money, and leaves no space for us to enjoy the little details of our day-to-day life.

You know in Aladdin, the Ginnie says you only have three wishes, but I cannot make anyone love someone nor can I kill anyone. He also subtly hints that most “masters” wish for power or money. Now, this animated film is 30 years old, my age, so what does this mean? Has our society been on its way to blurring out the values for years, and perhaps even for centuries? Has the materialistic dust make us forget that pleasures are found in simple and authentic gestures like hugs or the sound of music?