Fight for love – Self-love

Fight for love

You must fight for love. Love is not easy.

Fuck these beliefs. Fuck romantic movies where you fight for love and the bigger the gesture the better.

I say why fight for something which is not there yet? Why should I convince the other party to get to know me? I can convince myself I deserve love – unconditional love. First, self-love is not bonded to any condition. I love myself first and no matter what. Now I am becoming the person I want to date and spend my life with. I became happy with myself and my presence. I am happy and dancing throughout life – of course, because I will now attract partners or people who want to be in my life – only because they like my vibe and how I am happy within myself and find inner peace. They now find pleasure and sense in getting to know me – maybe hoping for some of my wisdom to become happy without them in the first place.

You haven’t bought it yet? Because it is work and first will hurt, because being alone can also become lonely if done wrong.

Quick question – with who you want to be around. A person who is happy and finds something safe in themselves, and they don’t need you or a person who is unhappy alone, fears to be alone, is also clingy and needs constant reassurance from the outside #fromyou. Which person do you want to become and which person do you want to spend time with?

Self-love

The power of self-love – I am happy with myself. I learned to love myself the hard way – I don’t think there is an easy way. To truly unconditionally love yourself, you have to hate yourself first and decide to unlearn this toxic behavior.  To become a safe person not dependent on others. Not in the toxic independent style. More like I don’t need you in my life to learn to love myself because I already learned this by myself, or I need you to love me, show me I have worth and be dependent on your words. I don’t need you in this way – because I can give this to myself. But what if I want you in my life?

How beautiful and more meaningful it is to be a fully thought-through decision than being something or someone needs or expects you to give in exchange for very conditioned love or body/social contact. I want somebody to decide to have me as an add-on to their life because they want me in it and not because of an unfulfilled need or void in them. I should spend my time trying to fill in or fix.

I say love is easy. It should be. Loving someone is a decision you make every day. Start with yourself. Decide to love yourself every day.