Mothers and Daughters

The first man to love you is said to be your father and, well, if he messes up, he sets up the downfall of all your future relationships.

That is how it works, right?

But what about the other part?

What about how you act in a relationship?

How about the way you approach a relationship?

That is up to your other parental figure.

Your mother.

The woman you watched as you were growing up.

I know, some of us will hate admitting it.

But us daughters are really our mothers’ children. We have no other choice than to act and be like her. She was the role model some of us would never have chosen, but we didn’t have a choice.

Your short temper? Your toxicity? Hers.

Your trust issues and abandonment issues may develop because of the emotional absence of your father, but the way you act about them is the same way your mother would and did.

Because it’s not just us that he left behind. He left her behind as well.

And there we are, two broken girls hurt in the same way and going on with our pain in the same way.

Like a mirror, we act the same.

And no matter the space between us, nothing will change the way I was.

I was my mother’s daughter.

I was a part of her.

And sometimes, even if I don’t like it,

I was her.